Marca

That's a good one, lewdyju!

Actually owning your own biz can make it easier to raise kids, it may not be a problem to take them with you once in a while... My parents owned a store and I practically grew up there. Had a place to play without bothering customers and learned very early not to ask questions when my parents were talking to a customer! LOL

lewdyju

I am planning on having the kids there sometimes, if it is an issue and bothers people my mom lives close, she will be watching them during the busy hours. I will also have the kids in Karate everyday for an hour, conviently next door. When we sell our printing biz we will be family owned and operated but for the first few years it will be me and whomever I hire.

caribbean tan man

BAIL OUT NOW .........why would people that need pre marital counseling even consider gettting married......sorry if i sound harsh but its reality. BAIL OUT NOW

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JOLEE

I completely understand where she is coming from, and him actually. I was on the other end of this when I first got married, and my husband started his business 2 months before our wedding. The first year was very stressful. We fought about money, and time together, because of the business. I didn't get it, I wanted to be supportive, but it was hard. Once I got more involved, I understood and grew to love the business, and him more for what he did. Now we both have a business of our own, and we both play a part in each of the businesses.

My suggestion to you, is GET HIM INVOLVED SOMEHOW. Hes going to be your husband anyway, and whats yours is his right? and whats his is yours? He needs to take more of an active role in the business, if I didn't back then, I'm not sure what would have happened, because I DIDN'T GET IT.

just my 2 cents if its worth that much!

Carribbean Island Tan

i opened salon on my girlfriends money - so now i have salon and no girlfriend.
no girlfriend - no problems!
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Nigelappler

my GF broke up with me 3 weeks after i opened my salon .. she claimed I cared more about the store then her... she was right.

asleektan

caribbean tan man............many churches will not marry you unless you take pre-marital counseling. The church that I grew up in will be marrying us and that's in KS so the church we attend now offer pre-marital counseling for ALL couples before marriage. I personally think EVERYONE should take the classes because you will be sooo suprised of what you learn and hear from others. I'm proud of taking pre-marital counseling and wouldn't change it for the world right now. Have you or are you married? Pre-marital counseling isn't for people that have problems in their relationship it's to prepare you for marriage. DUH!

Everyone else........hate to say this but I'm happy that I'm not the only one that is having or has had these same problems. Makes me so much happier. I thought I was doing something wrong with our relationship. It sounds like to me that it will take time for the both of us. He will have to learn and be happy with what makes me happy and what I want to do with my life as a career woman and the same goes for me when it comes to him.

Thanks everyone..........and DERF...........I will let you know when it goes to the toilet..........you are #1 on my list to call...........LMAO

billable

asleektan,

Good Luck. A good marriage takes work even under the best of circumstances. Definitely get all these concerns out in the open now. Don't get married thinking that these will get better. Odds are they will get worse instead.

What I see with the very limited information that you have provided is that your boyfriend works a full time job and feels that is enough. Self employment requires a different mindset.

I also understand him wanting to spend more time with you. And you definitely can't blame him for going to bed at 9:00 if he has to be at work that early.

your situation is going to require compromise. What are you going to compromise on? Fewer hours? Different job? What is he going to do? Get a different job? Could you both make a living out of your tanning salon if you worked together?

Either way, I can see both sides of the argument. I hope that you can work out something that allows you to be happy in both your personal and professional life.

Bill

asleektan

It's going to be interesting....we will see what all happens....he met me when I was working 77 hrs a week and I'm barely working 40 hrs right now (physically at the shop of course). I don't know what more to do for him. He needs to get a hobby because there is only two things thats on his priority list and thats work in the morning and me in the evenings. Thank God we have 13 months before the wedding. Thanks everyone for being open and honest about your own experiences.

Mr Derf

I'll need a couple hours notice to dump my wife.