asleektan

billable....thanks....it means a lot to me coming from you (i'm not being a smarta$$ either) and

glotan...thanks for your input as well. My fiance is an also a sweet guy but he also is depressed because he doesn't get to see me as much as he would want. He is one of those old fashion guys that was raised to be the one that takes care of the woman and is the bread winner...which he is the bread winner but he has catched a girl that is VERY independent.

TanningEmporium......funny you said counseling.....we just started our pre-marital counseling with our church last week. It's a 4 week course so maybe things will get better by taking these classes.

I was just wondering if everyone had these problems especially if they had the business before they met their significant other. Thanks everyone. Hearing these comments make me feel a little better and tells me there is hope far down the road...LOL!

movieking

What kind of work are you having to do in your home office.

TanWorldOrder

"pre-marital counseling with our church last week. It's a 4 week course so maybe things will get better by taking these classes"

WOW! 4 weeks???? Mine is only 4 hours this saturday.

Good luck with that.

asleektan

it's only on thursday nights...hahaha....so about 6 hrs total....haha

caribbean tan man

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RUN FOR THE HILLS

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pcstutsman

Yeah it takes some getting used to. I work 12 hours a day at least 5-6 days a week and my husband works nights, so we catch each other coming and going. But it seems like we do fight alot and its mostly about our business though. Just comes with the territory imo. Just make sure he understands what you are doing and can be ok with it before you get married. It can turn into a nasty situation if he doesn't come to terms with it. Bottom line-men are babies LOL

Neon Beach

You poor sap!! :(

sunsally

Sounds like he has a job where he is an "employee" and in your job you are the "owner" -- there is a HUGE difference!

If he doesn't understand that now, he won't understand it any better later. If he slacks off, what is the worse that happens --maybe, eventually, they realize and he gets a black marke on his performance appraisal? Or worse yet, if it is REALLY flagrant - he is fired.

If YOU slack off, as the owner, your business fails. Boom - down the tubes. Along with a couple hundred thousand in personal liability -- am I right?

A few thoughts:

1. Be as efficient as you can. When you are AT the salon, can more of the "home" work be done then? Especially now when things are slower?

2. Prioritize. Are you in your home office at night paying the bills? Or surfing Tantalk? There is a difference. Make sure you save the "this can ONLY be done at home, at night, NOW" things for home, and fit the "other" stuff in when you can (and when he is busy too).

3. Postphone any wedding plans. Seriously. A guy who, right now, is fighting with you "all the time/about once a month" about you "working too much" over a business that you have taken the initiative and risk to start on your own, and then declines to show even a LITTLE interest in it -- when you INVITE him -- saying he doesn't want to "get in your way" -- sounds a lot less "motivated" than you. This isn't going to get better with time -- in fact, fast forward ahead and consider how much help he's likely to be with kids if you have them. To say nothing of doing a little cleaning or cooking around the house when you are "busy" and he has more time than you.

A 4 week course at your church won't begin to address your issues. Truly -- without trying to sound "mean" -- consider a marriage counselor NOW -- not AFTER you are married. It's a whole lot easier to break an engagement than a marriage if that is how it works out. And if not, that will mean it will just have made your relationship that much stronger and helped give you great skills for working through issues, and there is no better gift a couple could give themselves if they are truly committed to being partners for life!

Good luck -

Neon Beach

I would skip the marriage altogether and use that money for a new HP unit.

pcstutsman

Good Idea Neon, wish I had thought of that LOL